MAKING A SHIFT.
People think the whole process is easy. They don’t even know the bullshit you have to go through to achieve the results. Therefore they try to replicate the glory they see without thinking about the source.
This is about putting yourself out into
world, overcoming the anxiety deep inside of you.
An easy way to force yourself to take
action is joining a group of people who already do it. When you are out, it’s a
point of no return.
This will change your life completely, if
you stick to it. Not only in the women area, but in every aspect of yourlife.
You can do this no matter who you are. You
are not unique. Everyone can do it. You are not a snowflake.
There are patters common to everyone.
HOW SHIFT WILL
TRANSFORM YOU?
No one knows what the fuck they are doing
when it comes to pick up. You will see guys not taking action, observing,
taking shortly to a couple of girls, asking for the number in a weird way.
Even if they put in the effort, there is a
lack of knowledge. People don’t know what to do with the material.
How to apply it. Overabundance of stuff.
Different types of game.
WHAT IS GAME AND ATTRACTION?
There’s a lot of misconception about game.
Women say you should be yourself. Being yourself for a guy who sucks, who is a
loser is the worst thing he could do.
Social conditioning. You have been
conditioned since you were born. We are fast learners. There is a lot of information
around. We can’t verify the authenticity of all of it, so we filter it through
an unconscious verification system of 3 steps:
· How certain
someone is of their ideas. If someone comes up to you and they tell you
something in a certain way, you will believe it
· How in
alignment his behavior is with his ideas. If he is a little tense, there’s a
little uncertainty, you will doubt what he is telling you.
· The number
of people that buy into the idea. If a lot of people believe it, you will
believe it too.
With this system you will believe
everything that goes through the 3 steps. This is not good, you will look at other
people and believe their ideas. If an idea is false and manages to get through
the system, you will
believe it, even if your common sense
tells you it’s bullshit. In game, most of the beliefs are false.
Attraction is value. Value is anything
that increases your chance of survival and reproduction. It’s also anything
that feels good.
Attraction has always been the same. Since
caveman times.
What matters the most is
confidence, dominance, decisiveness which
are sub-communicated by the way you act and speak. It’s the deeper level of
communication and it tells everything about you, more than any word could do.
If you are confident, decisive,
resourceful a girl can feel it, you don’t have to
tell her.
Women are looking at your behavior cues,
sub-communication. It’s not like men who are looking at the visualcues.
They can’t tell whether you are attractive
only on looks. They need to see the way you act and the way people react to
you.
Eye contact for example. You can tell
everything from the eyes.
Voice tonality. Breaking rapport. Your
voice should go down, like you talk to your friends.
Body language.
Men and women experience attractiveness in
a different way. Men are like a light switch, women are like a
volume knob, she needs some time to get a
grasp of who you are. Any fucking loser can pretend to have value
for the first few seconds. The more time
you spend with someone, the harder it is to pretend. A woman
sees how you present yourself the first
time, then she wants to spend more time with
you, test you, and see if you are really
who you said you are. She will put you in different
environments.
Attraction for a woman is not static.
First you can have value, then act in a supplicating way and lose it, then be
confident again and regain it. She’s looking at the overall picture.
Game is becoming an attractive guy at the
core. You must be internally attractive to be technically attractive.
Game isn’t about learning the tricks. You
have to works on the roots.
You have to force yourself to evolve, to
make a shift and change yourself on a
deep level.
Imagine who you want to become and ask
yourself what are the events that lead to becoming that man. The guy might have
a lot of experience with women. You have to do that as well so you can become
that guy. He might have great social skills. You have to go out socializing.
Game is a practice. It’s you going out
doing certain things over and over
again, day by day. Change won’t happen in
a moment. Most guys think they will quickly learn it and get the girls of their
dreams and keep it.
To get the dream girl you need to become
good with women in general. Even if you get it, you won’t be able to keep it.
She will be repelled by the fact that you
don’t improve, you don’t have value. She will realize you don’t have much
experience talking to women.
Some guys wait for luck. This is futile.
Game is about taking control of your life. Work on yourself, don’t wait for
opportunities, create them.
Success
is slow hard work.
Most actors, successful people put in hard
work. They didn’t get there by luck.
Luck is where opportunity meets
preparation. Take charge of your fucking life and make a shift.
DESTROYING LIMITING BELIEFS.
Your limiting beliefs come from the
conditioning society did on you since you were born.
Come in as a blank state, forget
everything you know.
This wouldn’t work for me. This is not for
every guy, some just don’t have it. This is bullshit. Anyone can achieve
anything.
What one man can do another man can do. If
you are a normal individual with no health of brain issues, you can do it. As a
guy you are born as attractive to women. This is nature. You don’t have to
achieve mastery in order to get results. You get girls around the way even with
small changes.
Girls like guys who are good looking.
Remember cavemen times. Back then being good looking didn’t have much value.
Women looked at the behavioral cues, who is the guy who is decisive, on top of
his shit.
My age matters. I’m too old. You are never
too old to make a fresh start. It is never too late.
If you are old, you should have more
experience and be more grounded than a 20 year old kid who has gone through nothing.
If you think age matters, you think women experience attraction like men.
You think they base it on visual cues.
Girls like guys who have money. Women
don’t need your fucking money. Most women can support themselves. Or they have
already people who support them, like family or orbiters. Every hot woman has orbiters
who buy them shit.
It’s different in my country. Here it
doesn’t work, girls here are different. Everyone from everywhere thinks like
this.
The grass is always greener on the other
side. The reason you think it’s harder there it’s because you grew up there.
Your limiting beliefs are anchored to that environment.
Women don’t like sex. A lot of guys
believe this deep down. If you didn’t, you wouldn’t be afraid to go talk to girls,
to tell them you like them and think they are attractive. You fear they don’t
feel the same way. Women love sex. They talk dirty among them.
She will hook up with you if you don’t
have a judgmental behavior. People slut
shame women. If you are talking to a girl
and she thinks she will be judged for sleeping with you, she will hold off.
That’s the reason they don’t talk about
sex around you. They don’t want to seem sluts.
Stop judging. View sex as a no big deal.
It’s something that natural happens between people. If a woman doesn’t feel
judged, she will sleep with you fast.
Lover and provider categories. She will
have different behaviors depending where you stand.
For the provider, she says she doesn’t
like sex, she will feel judged.
Lover is the guy who is fun, care free,
nonjudgmental. She will be herself, she won’t rationalize whether she looks
like a slut to you and things will be amazing.
ARE YOU A VICTIM?
A lot of people think they are victims of
other people, of the negativity of life. It’s not their fault, they can’t do
anything about it.
You are born happy. Full of hope, dreams.
What happens with the years, things don’t
go as you thought, you think an opportunity is lost forever and that happens
again and again until you tell yourself that’s just not you. It’s easier to
blame other people, you don’t take responsibility.
No one is where they thought they would be
years ago. They think they are victims of the circumstances, they have regrets
of not doing things.
Life is unfair, I am a victim of
circumstances, I can’t do anything about it, the world owes me, I am jealous of
other people.
A lot of people feel helpless, victims.
Few people are really happy, positive, and passionate. Most people are sad,
they look down.
Most people lost it, they gave up on it.
Why even try, I am a victim. They just stop, accept it and that’s their life.
Instead of confronting reality, they try to escape it. Fuck today, I can’t wait
to go home. Fuck everything.
They can’t wait to fall asleep. If you are
happy to fall asleep, if you are happy to escape your reality, you will be
happy.
These people want to be stimulated. They
go watch movies, TV series, and marathons. Anything to escape reality. They
drink alcohol, drugs. There is an endless supply of this stimulus. The internet
is full of movies and TV series. You can find infinite hours.
It reinforces being a spectator, living
through the glory of other people. I can
forget about my life, I can watch a TV
show where a guy has the life I wanted
to have.
Living through other people. You don’t
have to go out and socialize.
You have internet friends. People wake up,
go to work, hate their jobs, get lost in routine, quickly rush home, grab junk
food which gives you instant gratification, they crack on the TV shows and
movies.
They don’t have friends, they don’t need
friends because they have the virtual friends from TV series and movies. They
fall asleep and they dread the next day. Day by day till they die.
Step up and make a change. Don’t escape
reality. Avoid the life described above.
Society loves this kind of people because
they are the perfect consumers.
“Do
you feel sad? Buy my shit. This will make you happy, escape reality.”
The longer this happens, the sadder it
gets. Your excuses and rationalizations grow bigger. You don’t have the willpower
to snap out of it anymore. Making a change takes effort. You think there is too
much rewiring to do, too many beliefs to destroy, you might have forgotten how
things normally are.
Snapping out of it, moving in a different
direction feels like death.
Letting them go is a too strong hit on the
go. It would mean to accept having fucked up for such a long time.
Accept that you fucked up till now so you
can live happy from now on.
Make a firm commitment, don’t snap back
into it as your guilty pleasure.
You are not the center of the universe.
Stop making it personally. There is no master plan. Thinking that everything
that happens happens for you is narcissistic. Be realistic. The world is harsh,
unfair. You don’t get
what you deserve, bad things will happen
but don’t take it personal, it’s random. Accept it.
You are not a unique snowflake. Everyone
goes through shit. You are not
alone. Those issues are not unique.
The more personal the wound, the more
universal the wound. Everyone has problems, millions of people are scared to
talk to girls. If you feel self-conscious, everyone feels
like it. Stop placing everyone on a
pedestal, other people have problems as
well, and many people have it worse than
you and they still make it. Shut the
fuck up about your problems, some people
have bigger shit than yours.
Everyone has it tough. Decide to make the
fucking change. Look throughout history. There was some guy who dealt with
exactly the same shit you are dealing now. And he decided to step it up.
Embrace being part of a larger whole. You
are not in this alone. Other people have it tough as well.
Be aware of other people but never compare
yourself to them. Don’t
compare their bullshit to yours.
Menvy. Jealousy among men. People successful.
Why do I have to put in the hard work when he does that
normally? Why is this happening to me and
not to him?
Be aware that those people go through shit
as well. Keep your head down
and focus on you. It’s a competition
against yourself.
Take the constrains you have in life as a
given. Go from there and accept it instead of complaining about it.
What are you going to do, you are in this
situation. You can accept it or you
can step up. Bitching about other guys who
have it better WILL NOT help you.
Example people whine about looks. Assume
that that statement is true. You are right. Now what? What will you do about it?
You still have to step it up. Don’t even let those thoughts to enter your mind.
USE
IT AS LEVERAGE. If you
have nothing, you have extra
motivation to step it up.
The enemy of the best is good. If someone
has it easier than you, they won’t have that
fire under them to step it up. I have
nothing. Fuck, I better step it up. So it as
extra motivation.
Never wish to be someone else. This is the
worst. Wish you were the best version of you. Accept where you are at, accept
where you start and focus on changing. If you start off in shit, you don’t have
to stay there.
Forge who you are. You can’t change you
past, but you can transcend it.
Get out of your introspective world of
self-pity. Do I feel sad about this? Nervous about this? For these people it’s
all about them.
Get a bigger purpose in life and a bigger
circle of concern. Submit to a larger cause. If you have a big purpose,
something to achieve, that will create gravity through your personal boundaries.
You won’t allow shit thoughts to enter your mind. It would be a
waste of time. You are trying to
accomplish something big. They are not helping you achieve that goal.
Must achieve my goal. It’s all out. This
is my air. Achieve the goal. Personal boundaries will get tight. You won’t allow
shit in your mind. You won’t have the luxury to feel tired, to feel sorry about
yourself.
Get some purpose. Better yourself as a
person for example. If you move in
that direction, if you buy into that
thing, you won’t have time for self-pity.
You will have bigger
worries.
Get bigger circle of concerns as well.
It’s not about you every time.
No one cares. No one gives a fuck about
you in terms of you being a
victim. No one will help you. You are born
alone, die alone, you are
in this alone. Don’t find pity in your
family. You are not a little kid. No one cares. Not even your friends.
No one cares if you are sad. Your DNA
doesn’t care about it either. It cares about survival and reproduction. It doesn’t
care about being sad. Surviving is living, reproduction is masturbating. Your
needs are met. Your DNA won step it up.
Stop looking for someone else to do it for
you. Don’t look for someone to
comfort you, to make you feel happy when
you are sad. This has to come
from you. You have to fix yourself.
Kill the habit of looking for comfort, for
pity. You are not a kid. This
is a way to get attention when you are a
kid. No one is coming. If you
feel sorry, you will keep feeling sorry.
You have to do this. No one will fix you, not even
girls.
No one owes you shit. You don’t naturally
deserve good things. You don’t deserve women. You don’t deserve better. The
world does not owe you anything. If you are not attractive yet, you don’t
deserve yet hot girls, success. You get what you deserve in life. You have to
work on yourself.
Stop crying. Stop being a little bitch.
Start laughing at that
voice in your head that wants to feel
sorry. Mock it, laugh at it.
Start laughing. Distant yourself from it
and realize how ridiculous it is. Don’t identify with it.
Create some distance and then separate
from it. It is not you.
When it comes to women, you can’t have any
insecurities. The girls will sense
that. She wants to make sure you are
solid, so she will test you about it. She will see how you react to that. If you
aren’t prepared for it, you are fucked. Laugh at your insecurities. Embrace them.
If you can’t fix it, laugh at it.
Embrace-exaggerate-laugh.
This is the formula.
Overcome your insecurities. Laugh at
yourself. Laugh at the voice.
You have all eternity to be dead. If you
think this is too hard and you want to give up, living your shit life, it’s
like being dead. You will die someday.
Your life is short, put in an effort, snap out of it, and cultivate
willpower. Go all out, don’t give up, even if it’s hard, even if it’s going to
take a long time. What else do you got?
SUPERIOR
MENTALITY.
Unlike victim mentality, in this case you
think you are above the process. “Learn how to better myself to be good with
girls? That’s for fucking losers. I don’t need this shit, I am already good
with girls”. That’s delusion.
That’s just like everyone thinks they can
fight. Tell them to go talk to a girl, they won’t do it.
They will look back at their life. They
think saw her and they got her. What happened was that the girl likes them for
chemistry and she throws at them for a long time until they realize it after a
lot of time. In their mind they see her, they get her. They have no actual
control. They get girls through situational confidence. They depend on social
circles. Throw them in the fire, with people they don’t know and they will
crash.
You are not above the process, no matter
who you are. No matter how good
you are. Let go of the ego which makes you
think you are good.
Take on a learner mentality. Never accept
yourself as a finished mentality. You will never reach a point where you will
good enough. Maybe you won’t learn as much as a newbie, you will learn a lot
anyway.
Let it go. Let your ego go. Don’t be
afraid of getting help.
Humble yourself. Go get fucking help. You
will save time. Value your time. Buy a product, it will save you so much time.
Delegate, get help. Don’t do everything on your own. You won’t do it better
than everyone else.
If you are not getting the results you
want right now, you are doing
something wrong. You know it deep down.
You know you could reach your
full potential. Be willing to learn.
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